An Oasis – #Memorybox

The last week or two have stretched liked a desert of glum, uninspiring defeatism . I’ve felt very annoyed at my return to a less than upwardly positive state but then all things considered it’s not really a surprise.

First ,a less than good week for Tink at school, he struggled to settle after the internal exclusion and my worries for his future years in education have been plaguing my thoughts, again.

Then there was the late night, no scrap that, all night Kindle playing from Stig, made all more catastrophic with a quick history check. Porn, yes porn, it nearly had my eyes out ,but realistically I was left feeling bereft for my sons innocence and racked with guilt that I had not protected him from these images. For about 24 hours I truly felt heart broken.

And then Mr H, struggling through work and home life with the weight of a dark, conspiring, unkind world on his shoulders. The depth of his despair has also been heart breaking and we’ve (family) had to take action. Hopefully we are about to start making things better for him, he so deserves a happier heart.

So really it’s not a surprise my head has been finding it hard to hold on to the optimism which had blossomed.  However in this relentless desert I found an oasis, a little corner of creativity that reminded me of me. It  was the wonder which is Well Dressing. I wont tell you lots about it, I’ve done that before, however, I will say that it saved me last week. Amongst friends, creating beautiful designs depicting the life and works of Shakespeare (this years theme) from petals, leaves and all sorts of natural paraphernalia. I loved  every moment it, and this year I brought along my mum, and she loved it too. So enjoy the finished works of our great community.












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Memory Box


Im a Trustee for The Open Nest.


I’ve hinted about it a bit, talked a little about it at times, I Instagramed a picture from our first trustee meeting but I’ve not formally said it. So here is the announcement, I am very proud to be a Trustee for The Open Nest Charity.

This charity aims to provide post adoption support for families in crisis, through a number of different channels, which are currently under development. At the core of what the charity aims to do is  provide respite care for families.This will take place in a beautiful rural setting with lots of activities and support provided by specialist, trained staff.

Whilst the Charity is awaiting Ofsted approval ,Amanda Booreman, the founder, is in discussion with a LA to devise a feasible and workable plan of action that will enable those families that really need access to their facilities to be identified and provided for.

The Open Nest is very supportive of the work Vicki from The Boys Behaviour and myself do on The Adoption Social. They understand that a community that “gets it”  is the foundations of a good support network.

So together with The Open Nest we are delivering our first conference on Saturday the 18th of October, in York. A user led conference with inspirational speakers and opportunity for discussion , oh and a social event organised by The Adoption Social, it’s all in the name. The tickets are at a subsidised cost at £25, making it accessible to more people. I will let you know when there are more details. If you are interested in attending then contact me and I’ll ensure you get the information.

The Open Nest has also commissioned this short but powerful film to help others understand how a lack of support can feel. The content of the film was collated from the twitter community and other adopters and adoptees. Please take a short moment to watch it.

The Open Nest. The Lost Children Of Trauma. from marry waterson on Vimeo.