Nagging

nagging

Nagging

I look at you and wonder what you’re thinking in your head,

As once again I lay blame, disgruntled murmurings, a dislike of what you said.

Out across your tightened shoulders,

Already heavy with the weight,

Of all other things you didn’t do or say of late.

Exactly the way I asked of you,

Exactly as I like,

I wonder if the word is “hate” that glints across your eyes.

The tenseness in your frame suggest suppression is in place,

Trying to stay the distance in this long and drawn out race.

“If only she would say as many times I got it right,

Then maybe my volcano would not bubble close to sight”.

Will it pass our wont it, he really cannot tell,

Sometimes it is too late to say, the hand is ready dealt.

He holds himself with firmness, arms down flat against his side,

Eyes in the direction and he tries and tries and tries,

To hear what mum is saying,

To get it right this time,

So her endless going on and on will finally subside.

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19 Comments

  1. sarahmo3w April 11, 2013 / 8:48 am

    That’s brilliant – and so true. It’s such a fine line with nagging. I sometimes listen to myself and know I’ve nagged too much and not praised enough :(

    • thepuffindiaries April 11, 2013 / 8:51 am

      Thanks Sarah, I’ve just felt lately like I’ve been on at him a bit. x

  2. Dragonsflypoppy April 11, 2013 / 8:53 am

    This is such a moving poem. I expect many mummies (and our children) would relate to it. Thank you for writing it with such honesty. xx

  3. Victoria Welton April 11, 2013 / 9:27 am

    I always love the true grit of your poems – well-structured and say so much. I find myself nagging too much but I think its because we care :). Thank you for linking to Prose For thought and for your support xx

  4. adoptandkeepcalm April 11, 2013 / 10:49 am

    Ah, thanks for the kick up the butt to stop the ‘nagging’! I too have been Queen of the Naggers recently – I am trying to ‘pick my argument’ – it’s work in progress!

    • thepuffindiaries April 11, 2013 / 3:01 pm

      Sometimes I just stop because I can see he’s switched off completely. Picking an argument is best…in theory. x

  5. judithkingston April 11, 2013 / 12:19 pm

    What an excellent poem. Don’t be too hard on yourself though! It’s hard to get it right all the time, and there are always so many things going on that make us go into nagging overdrive. I’m sure you do a lot of telling him he got it right as well. xx

    • thepuffindiaries April 11, 2013 / 3:02 pm

      I do give him lots of praise as well. The nagging isn’t constant I promise. x

  6. Instinctive Mum April 11, 2013 / 1:43 pm

    Great poem, I remember that feeling as a child of never quite getting it right and try so hard not to nag my children all the time, but it’s tough! x

    • thepuffindiaries April 11, 2013 / 3:03 pm

      We seem to go through phases and I am completely aware I’m doing it and do try to stop. x

    • thepuffindiaries April 11, 2013 / 4:54 pm

      Thank you, bit unfortunate for my son having to put up with me. x

  7. Charlie Hughes (The Mad Mummy Musings) April 11, 2013 / 6:19 pm

    I can so relate to this poem at the moment and not just with my girls – but with hubby too ! :-) I think we probably all need to accept that we aren’t perfect all of the time and just trying our best. And that’s ok and it’s also enough xx

    • thepuffindiaries April 11, 2013 / 7:42 pm

      I think we go through phases don’t we, I know I do. I know I’m not perfect but like you say we are doing our very best. x

  8. Helen Braid April 11, 2013 / 8:21 pm

    Oh the nagging gets the better of me in the school holidays. No wonder my boy loves his teacher so much! She maintains a much sunnier temperament… Seriously though, we all know its not always easy. Excellent poem as always xx

    • thepuffindiaries April 11, 2013 / 8:22 pm

      I’m not a complete nag, just occasionally I see I’ve gone too far. xx

  9. Stix April 12, 2013 / 9:36 am

    It’s funny how we go over the top sometimes with our nagging, but I know I never go over the top with praise…it would devalue the praise if we did wouldn’t it? You’re doing just the same as all of us so don’t feel bad…and it helps you write beautifully x

    • thepuffindiaries April 12, 2013 / 10:49 am

      So true about the praise sometimes, think the key is to be specific in your praise although some days it’s hard, for all of us. Thanks for commenting. x

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