The Phoenix


Recently I publicly humiliated myself. It was a rather unceremonious unravelling of my sanity. Wine fuelled, my very inappropriate behaviour was a climax to a couple of weeks of free falling into the depths. Unable to grasp at the sides, or cling onto a thread, I reached for the wine and hoped for the best.

Very far from being one of my finest moments.

But we have to count our blessings, see the positives and move forward.

I have put a stop to wine time, which hasn’t been that hard because I’ve now given myself permission to” not be coping”. I’ve stopped trying to be “fine”. I’m really not fine at the moment and that is ok.

In the desperate moments of regret and sadness, I’ve had this week, I’ve allowed the feelings of pain to flow and I’ve survived them.

I’ve survived because there have been others there to hold me, share the weight of my sorrow and nurse my fragility.

The blessings I’ve found are these people. From the ashes of this wreck, a light has grown in me. I have felt the warmth and love of my family and true friends.

Together they have revived my spirit, lifted my chin, nudged a smile and eventually made me laugh. They have made me realise the importance and the lack of importance of my folly.

So where as last Friday, the day of my doom, I was wading through a quagmire of loneliness and despair but pretending I was floating on air. This Friday I sit still, here in the moment, experiencing my being. What I feel is loved and blessed.


  1. Plumstickle February 6, 2015 / 11:22 am

    I love your spirit. Way to go girl.

  2. Bridget mooney February 6, 2015 / 10:00 pm

    The feelings of love and being blessed are truly a reflection of the affect you have on others, you are as much a contribution to other peoples’ lives as they are to yours. Honest and humble, inspirational and courageous,even when under strife.. …..A firebird.Bx

  3. Lindsay February 7, 2015 / 3:44 pm

    Your words are strung together like poetry. Lovely and raw and honest. Glad you are back to stillness and feeling loved.

  4. Muddling Along February 12, 2015 / 5:12 pm

    Sending over lots of gentle love and happiness that you can accept that you don’t have to cope all the time and that not coping is sometimes the only thing you can do

  5. Mrs TeePot February 15, 2015 / 5:23 pm

    Sending hugs and love your way

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